Carl Quinn. You Will Be Missed Dear Friend

Oh this Corona virus thing…with so much about it in the news, on TV, online, on the radio, in conversations, signs at stores, everywhere one looks corona has taken over our lives.  At moments it feels surreal – like it’s all happening in an alternate universe; the deaths and severe illnesses seem to be happening to so many people but in an alternate reality, which makes it hard sometimes to understand the attention given to the virus.  Until of course, it touches our own lives.  When someone we know, a person dear to us passes away, and that too from the virus – that’s when it seems all too real, too real to comprehend, too real to understand, too real to take it all in.  How can someone we’ve known for so long,  a dear friend, who is our age, a wonderful person, pass away from the virus? That’s what happened to our good friend Carl Quinn last week.

An unexpected death from the COVID-19 infection, but not just another statistic; for Carl will forever be remembered for the loving husband, doting father, good friend, and amazing human that he was. Carl Quinn you will always remain in our hearts 💙💕.

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Neighbors you wish for and actually get.

Carl and Tracy are the type of neighbors that we all wish for, and in our case our wish actually came true.  We met Carl and Tracy as neighbors 20 years ago ever since both our families moved into a new housing development in South San Jose.  We were next-door neighbors and we hit it off instantly, both our families had young children and we were all excited to raise them in our new neighborhood. We saw our kids grow up and go to Middle School, then to High School and then off to college. Over the years we became more like family, always there for each other and ready to lend a hand.

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Then the time came a few years back  when we moved to the town of Los Gatos and Carl and Tracy purchased a 2nd home in Venice Beach to stay at when Carl started his new job.  Through all our moves though we kept in touch. They came back to the Bay Area often as their families live here and we got together with them on as many occasions as we could.  When I turned the big 50 Carl and Tracy came over to celebrate it with us. When I hosted a brunch for Father’s Day they were visiting town and joined in the celebration.  When Tracy turned 50 we were invited to her party.  And so on, you get the picture – we always stayed in touch and met up whenever we could.

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Carl the cool cat.

I always thought of Carl as a cool Silicon Valley engineer. He seemed to work at the coolest companies even before they became cool.  He worked at Netflix when they were just a mail order CD company. He was with them all the way until they focussed on online and streaming services.  Then he went on to work at what we call in Silicon Valley a “Big tech company” but he didn’t enjoy that stint and went on to work at Riot Games in Venice Beach.  A video gaming company.  How cool is that!  He was there for a few years before he moved back to the Bay Area and joined a company that is working on technology for driverless trucks.  On the evening that we saw him last he was excitedly talking about the future of driverless vehicles and shared demos and stories of where he thought the future would be.  It was all so fascinating, and I recall telling him “Carl, you always pick the coolest companies to work for!”

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Carl’s cool gadgets

One of my many memories of Carl is as a guy always eager to try out a new gadget be it an electric car, the newest wine opener, a telescope or fancy coffee machine.  Boy did Carl love his coffee! He even invested in a coffee roaster, which he showed off when we saw him last. He talked about purchasing raw beans from various sources and creating his own coffee blend, which he then roasted in-house.  Carl loved his coffee!

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I also recall a time when Carl got a brand new telescope. It was when we were neighbors and I was working outside in my front yard when Carl mentioned he had just purchased a large telescope. He excitedly explained how he wanted to see the planets and stars and was setting up the telescope that evening. We asked if we could take a look and he asked us to stop by that same evening. We literally walked a few steps to get to his place and saw the planets, the Milky Way and the stars.  Now he is one of them ⭐️🌟✨.   As it turns out Carl still has that telescope over a decade later! As Tracy texted back when I asked her about it “Oh yeah!!! Yes we still have it. Haven’t used it here at this house. I’ll have to see if I have any clue as to how to use that telescope now. Lol.”

Carl and his very cool pumpkin orange Tesla Roadster and fond memories as neighbors

One of my other fond memories of Carl is when we were neighbors and Carl purchased one of the first electric cars made by Tesla – the Roadster!  Both Hitesh and Carl are car buffs so talking about cars was a natural topic of conversation for those two. Imagine Hitesh’s surprise when Carl mentioned he had put a down payment on a new electric car made by Tesla – sight unseen! Hitesh asked him “Without even seeing it you’re going to buy it?”  And then one day I still vividly remember working in my front garden and seeing this beautiful pumpkin orange sports car slowly drive up our road, it was like a slow motion movie.  I couldn’t believe it when it drove into Carl’s driveway!  It was the Tesla Roadster and it was gorgeous. Carl and Tracy looked like the coolest kids on the block!  Hitesh and I stared at it in awe. Hitesh couldn’t wait to get a ride 😀.  We immediately walked over and in Carl’s gracious style he gave us a ride.  What a memory. As I was relaying this story to Tracy recently she excitedly exclaimed “Still have that orange Tesla!!  It’s a collector’s item now!”

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Reminiscing about Carl with the family my daughter Anjali remembered how one summer when she was in elementary school, Carl Uncle made her think he had eaten a bug 😜.  She was eight years old then, and we were over at Carl and Tracy’s place on a warm summer evening.  Knowing that my kids were paranoid about bugs, Carl playfully grabbed a bug and pretended to eat it commenting to the kids “It tastes sweet and crunchy.”  Anjali told me as she was remembering  “Even though Carl Uncle was laughing and joking the whole time, I think he really did eat the bug 😀.”

Carl the Mr. Handsome

Lately Instagram has become so in-vogue and Tracy who is a social media enthusiast has her own Insta account that I’ve been following for a while now.  I noticed in her posts she would refer to Carl as her Handsome.  I thought it maybe a one-time name for that particular post, but no – she called him Handsome all the time 😊 in most of her posts.  I don’t know why, whenever she referred to Carl as Handsome it always made me smile and chuckle. It was so cute!  I just assumed that was the name she gave Carl just for her Instagram posts.  So imagine my surprise when I heard her call him that in person!   I remember being over at their place for dinner and Tracy asked Carl  “Handsome, can you reach up there and take down the port.”  And Carl responded like that was his name!!  It was so funny, so endearing, and so cute that it brought an instant smile to my face 😊.   As I told Tracy when I spoke to her last week – Carl was indeed Handsome inside and out.

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A good soul

One of the many qualities I admired about Carl was his ability to carry on a conversation and make it so interesting.  He was an intelligent man who traveled the world and could speak on varied topics, but he somehow knew how to share what he knew with such humility that it made it a pleasure to talk to him. You came away learning something new without ever feeling like you had been talked at.  He had a way of giving his opinion without making you feel that your opinion didn’t matter.  He had a gentle way about him that just made you feel at ease while at the same time making you feel special.

Our last dinner together.

The last time we saw Carl was at their beautiful new home in Portola Valley last year. It was the first time we were heading to see their new place and just like old neighbors and old friends that we were, it felt like we had never been apart.  It was a wonderful evening of good friends celebrating each other’s lives, catching up on our kids and families, and having dinner over wine and conversation. That evening was so perfect, one that I will remember very fondly.

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Behind every great man is a great woman.

You’ve heard of the saying Behind Every Great Man is a Great Woman – Tracy now more than ever epitomizes that for me.  I always knew Tracy was a strong woman, she quietly stood by Carl and let him be the star of a conversation and gently interjected when she felt the need, she was the rock behind the man.  Always by his side, always cheering him on, always supportive, and always loving Carl. Tracy was the Yin to Carl’s Yang.

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When I spoke to Tracy after Carl’s passing I was so humbled and in awe of her resilience during such a tough time.  She is in quarantine, is not able to see anyone in person, or leave her home, and yet she had the spirit of a warrior.  Sharing fond stories of Carl, talking about how she is staying healthy by cooking and exercising at home – “What else can I do? In many ways, it is all surreal and I feel this is all a dream and I am going to wake up.”  she said to me on the phone.  “Under normal circumstances I would have family and friends here to take care of me, and I would just be curled up in bed crying. But this quarantine thing has forced me to be strong.”  

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To hear her sound so strong and confident on the phone, made me so proud to know her.  Tracy,  you are my SHERO!  Your strength during these very difficult times is something we can all emulate 💕💪🏼.

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What life has taught us now

If anything the pandemic has taught us is that life is unpredictable.  We never know in what direction it will lead.  If there is a lesson to take from this experience is to love life the way Carl and Tracy did together.  Love one another unconditionally, enjoy each other’s company, celebrate the everyday, celebrate the special moments, meet with family and friends, and don’t stress about what you can’t control.

Carl Quinn. Loving husband to Tracy, doting father to kids Nicki and Sean, a good friend, and amazing human. A kind and gentle soul that we will remember forever.  Love you Carl, always!

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22 thoughts on “Carl Quinn. You Will Be Missed Dear Friend”

  1. Just sitting here reading your amazing blog! It’s so endearing and beautifully written!

    You have such a beautiful voice that comes through in your writing.  This is amazing.  I would love to share it with my family and Carl’s.

    Tracy

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    1. hank you so much Tracy 🙏🏻❤️. It took me almost 2 weeks to write it, I just had a hard time it was just too overwhelming to look at Carl’s pictures and think of him as still here with us. I just kept replaying all our memories of him and then finally wrote it all down. You are so strong Tracy – I so love you for it 💕❤️!

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  2. Kalpana, what a beautiful and loving tribute to your friend. I too remember your post of when you and Hitesh had dinner at their home last year. He sounds like a wonderful man and thank you for sharing your cherished memories of him💕

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    1. Thank you so much Joji for your well wishes. It is so heartwarming to hear that my blog that I did last year of our dinner together with Carl and Tracy resonated with so many of my friends and readers that they remembered it even today as I wrote of Carl’s passing. He was truly a special person and will be missed dearly.

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  3. So sorry to hear about Carl’s loss. I remember meeting him at your house Kalpana.
    May God grant him eternal peace and strength to Tracy and kids through these difficult times.
    🙏

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    1. Yes Swati, you did meet Tracy and Carl at our place a few times! Both the times were fun gatherings with dear friends and everyone had such a wonderful time Such fond memories ❤️. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers.

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  4. Hi Kalpana, what a beautiful celebration of Carl’s life. I remember your blog from last year about your visit.

    Sending Tracy prayers for strength and peace at this difficult time🙏

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    1. Hi Stella. thank you for your thoughts and prayers Tracy and family will welcome them all.

      It is so heartwarming to me that you and so many others remember my blog of our dinner with Tracy and Carl last year. It really did touch so many of my readers that it left a happy memory for many.

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  5. My absolutely deepest condolences to you and Carl’s family and friends. This truly is heart breaking and devastating. You wrote the most beautiful tribute, Kalpana. I remember that post from Portola Valley, and how I thought “what a special friendship and perfect memory” ❤

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    1. Hi Mackenzie, thank you so much for your condolences, I hope Tracy gets a chance to read all your comments. Yes, that dinner with Tracy and Carl in Portola Valley was indeed a very special one ❤️, You summed up our relationships so beautifully when you wrote “What a special friendship and memory ❤️” Even as I write this I get teary eyed. Thank you again for your lovely note ❤️🙏🏻. Please take care 😘

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  6. Such a wonderful tribute. May lord give Tracy and her kids strength to get through this difficult time. As you said Kalpana, love each other and make memories- eventually that’s what you’re left with to cherish. RIP Carl 🙏

    Nishma

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  7. Gosh, this is hard to read. It’s a beautiful, moving tribute, but it is so hard to think of Carl being taken from such a full, loving life before his time. I’m sending my condolences and best wishes to his family and friends.

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